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10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

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When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations — and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed." TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector
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Elizabeth Hulett (1 день назад)
Did this audience have a few drinks before this talk? Some of the most laughs I’ve heard from a non artist talk I’ve listened to
VídeosLegendadosPT-BR (2 дня назад)
I just wanted to say that I've watched this video over a year ago, and I don't think I've thanked you for the things you've said here. I really believe that this video has helped me change as a person for the better. Entering any kind of discussion while being open to the possibility that I might be wrong has improved my quality of life in a huge manner. I always recommend this to a lot of ppl, but, unfortunately and ironicaly, they usually don't "listen".
Bee Rizzle (4 дня назад)
People who mumble are the worst.
baraa ka (5 дней назад)
اكيد هالفيديو ما بيطبق مع العرب😓
The Game Philosopher (5 дней назад)
Plutarch wrote a fascinating essay entirely dedicated to listening.
KirkeGaming (7 дней назад)
Number 7 is the best one
KirkeGaming (7 дней назад)
I feel the same. People I know or in my area literally can't be bothered just to meet to talk.
João Lacerda (7 дней назад)
Love it. Thank u, Celeste
RM C (8 дней назад)
Here's a tip for phone calls. Close your eyes.
Cerbyo (8 дней назад)
8:00 LISTEN TO THAT. STOP EQUATING UR FUCKING EXPERIENCES THEY ARE ALL UNIQUE.
Keever Czlapinski (8 дней назад)
Aaron say's check it out http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NnnjR6y-QNk … now TALK about grooming Aaron say's U 2 can go to court, report being and alway's IT"S easy to embrace, hate rage and TURN ON everything you KNOW God Oprah I struggle with LOVE, POWER and MYSELF
Amanda Victoria (9 дней назад)
This is a lifesaver thank you !!!!
Mahjabeen Malik (9 дней назад)
We are more polarized than ever before because now we have technology???more media coverage,and may be you should read something about not being so stressed.I think you need help.
Gene Edgerton (10 дней назад)
Awesome speech!
Gene Edgerton (10 дней назад)
It used to be that therapists would advise families to take the TV out out of the house so that the members could start conversing (and their family issues would naturally disipate). The same advice needs to be given to parents. To the parents. To the parents! Stop blaming the young people. Advice: Get parents to put away their phones and make (make, make, make) their kids put away their phones, video games, ipads. It’s that simple. From this, people will start to engage in conversation naturally, effortlessly, and interestedly. They will WANT to listen.
celeste veloso (11 дней назад)
LISTENING IS A SKILL
Freeman Trash (12 дней назад)
Great talk!
Vani Maduray (16 дней назад)
This was SO good! Really helpful, thanks so much!
Prasanna (16 дней назад)
Amazing! What an educative talk! Another apt heading for this topic: "10 times listen this talk everyday!"
Aiko Nanami (16 дней назад)
little windows over the video advertising more content that you have to take away clicking an X because they are covering the actual video are annoying!
Phong Lam (17 дней назад)
"Be in that moment! " Buddha taught it more than 2550 years ago 🔆
John Smith (17 дней назад)
have eye contact with a person if you want to 'get down' to real communication...and nod to show interest is a good idea...to can 'eye contact' and 'nodding' or showing you are listening is good...'why show you are listening if, in fact, you are listening?'....because you are being considerate of the person letting them know you are paying attention to them...if you try talking to me without eye contact or don't show you are into what i'm saying then i walk away...she mentions more than once 'i talk to bla bla...i talk to bla bla'...i don't think she talks 'with' but she talks 'to' and she talks 'at'....she's talking 'at' this whole spiel.....
Kong Lee (17 дней назад)
TED TALKS HAS ALOT OF VIEW BECAUSE PEOPLE DO HOMEWORK ON IT... LIKE I HAVE TO DO HOMEWORK ON IT.
Tamara Grace (18 дней назад)
Was so good, I need to watch it again. :)
Pippo Da Coconut (18 дней назад)
I need to know who the guy laughing first everytime is
Mahmud Abdullah (19 дней назад)
you're never disappointed because you guyz only host interesting people. I mean They must have something if they've been invited to the show. Try to host regular people and you might not be that excited. Just A perspective
Mahmud Abdullah (19 дней назад)
but useful tips nonetheless
Laggy Vids (20 дней назад)
i dont think ive ever seen a video with so many likes before
Sarah Steenland (20 дней назад)
I liked this vid
ShiftingGear OTP (21 день назад)
Don’t talk about important things. Talk about stupid stuff that people actually care about. Save the important things for open minded, and like minded people.
lôc nguyễn (23 дня назад)
"A good conversation is like a miniskirt, short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject." is the best idea
Zaki Dell (23 дня назад)
SALEM \ PEACE \ HEY (Then He proportioned him and breathed into him from His [created] soul and made for you hearing and vision and hearts; little are you grateful.) 9 ASJDHA : THE PROSTRATION \ QURAN. (Say, "It is He who has produced you and made for you hearing and vision and hearts; little are you grateful.) 67 AL-MULK \ THE SOVERELGNTY \ QURAN EL-KARIM ( And do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight and the heart - about all those [one] will be questioned ) 17 AL-ISRAA \ THE NIGHT JOURNEY\ QURAN YOUR BROTHER FROM ALGERIA. <3
Abeer Syed (23 дня назад)
Omg I have to improve myself
Cain D (25 дней назад)
Awesome advice thank you
karthi karthik (1 месяц назад)
amazing speak
khadim Hussain (1 месяц назад)
you have uncovered one of the real secrets of successful life, well done!
Li-Yi Chen (1 месяц назад)
I think it’s that good video that taught me a lot about an efficient conversation. Still learning.
SE ' DIYE (1 месяц назад)
I loved the point about not equating your experience; everyone has an individual experience.
SE ' DIYE (1 месяц назад)
I love her accent, very nice.
Ghayas Ahsan (1 месяц назад)
bbw
Jake Dean (1 месяц назад)
Why do you block ratings and comments for some of the talks????
Rayden Creed (1 месяц назад)
Just a minor point, but I don’t think that we should be conditioning our conversations on trying to make sure that we’re not offending anyone. If they’re offended by anything, quite honestly, I believe they should just suck it up. The world is an offensive place, and we’re not going to advance as a society and culture trying to make it less so. It would probably be better for that to be a consequence of ACTUAL ways to improve society, such as better conversation, better schooling (that would hopefully have better conversations pinned under it), and other things. Edit: I also disagree with the sentiment that you simply shouldn’t bring up an experience of yours that’s analogous with theirs because they’re, quote, “never the same”. Of course they’re not going to be the same, the point of bringing up an analogous situation is to compare and contrast and make any logical deductions you can from them. I don’t know what sorts of conversations you’re having, but I never bring up an analogous situation to prove something about myself, or to make it about myself, period. I do it to draw from that experience to offer some kind of advice, helpful or not, and if I know that that advice isn’t going to be a slam-dunk, which, admittedly, is the case most of the time, I’ll acknowledge that fact, but that shouldn’t serve as grounds to not bring up the analogous situation at all or draw from it if possible. Edit 2: 8:07 “It is not about you.” 8:59 “What they care about is you.” So which is it?? Is or isn’t the conversation about me? Or is it just the case that we should treat the situation as if all parties in a discussion are equally important? I’m not sure why, this little contradiction just irritated me a little bit. And quite honestly, I could slightly be misunderstanding what the difference here is, if there is one. If there isn’t one though, then be more consistent.
veipunii lana (1 месяц назад)
I really like your speech
saindor mak (1 месяц назад)
This is great!!!
George Schlaline (1 месяц назад)
2016 is evil Stick to 1978 or 1980
Remarkable Rapport (1 месяц назад)
Best video on YouTube
chelle lim (1 месяц назад)
more listening less talking
Cody Lima (1 месяц назад)
I knew this.
indviduation (1 месяц назад)
#7 Try not to repeat yourself and early she said don't repeat back what the person said to you. I am curious when a person gives you verbal instructions it's meant to be remembered otherwise they would have wrote it down. Since its verbal instructions how not summarize and repeat the instructions back to the person in order for them not to endless repeat what the same instructions over again?
Doug Ordunio (1 месяц назад)
Terrific words to the wise. As a broadcaster, I learned the tough realization about NOT listening during my first recorded interview. That memory has never left me.
mayda (1 месяц назад)
my mother needs to watch this video
Anna Gromyko (1 месяц назад)
This is great!
Chigirl D (1 месяц назад)
Great video.
Carbide Jones (1 месяц назад)
You should have a tv show
Little Tangerine (1 месяц назад)
"Be interested in other people." Sigh...
Nicole Velasquez (1 месяц назад)
Thank you Celeste Headlee! This was my absolute favorite and a most crucial tedtalk !
Bronson & Co. (1 месяц назад)
I do not have conversations anymore because most of the people I encounter just want to talk, not to listen. If I followed her advise, would it be better? No. She is assuming people want to engage when in reality, again, the only thing they want to do is talk and be right. Also, "forget the details". What a shallow way to have a conversation.
Be A Buddha Now (1 месяц назад)
when alone & resting, one should pay attention to the sounds happening all around. This is one good habit one can cultivate over time. Mind is like a dog & we should be chained!!
Lena Frei (1 месяц назад)
Words can not describe how much this tedtalk gave me... I am dumbfounded.
robertson Patrickson (1 месяц назад)
video should start at 4:30, big points:4. go w flow, let ideas for next convo leave you head to continue listening 6-don't share you emotional story if person is emoting his
Gene Turner (2 месяца назад)
The Art of Listening is so IMPORTANT!
Kevin Olson (2 месяца назад)
Great talk. The most annoying thing people do is listen to you describe an experience you had that was important to you, and they immediately reply with a similar experience they had, rendering your experience unimportant because they have turned the attention to themselves. Stop doing that.
Enrique Oliveras (2 месяца назад)
silence is golden * Body and "actions " speak louder than ....
Oğuzhan Öztürk (2 месяца назад)
Is she aware of today's society? People are mostly full of crap and there is pretty much nothing amazing about most people. Imagine coming across a hardcore Trump supporter and you try to keep your mouth shut and listen to a load of bullshit. Keeping it short clean interesting bla bla.. i get all that and it makes sense. But that part about waiting to be amazed and not getting dissapointed ever? That is just plain bullshit.
V. Hall (2 месяца назад)
Terrific talk! Thanks
akwill44 (2 месяца назад)
Don't get whatshesaying
kanchan baria (2 месяца назад)
Awsome ,,,,Thums up
Niki Flow (2 месяца назад)
So...after listening to this and taking notes, I realize I basically suck at listening. The good news is, I can get better. Thank you Celeste. ♥.
fic cambodia (2 месяца назад)
All of this are very interested, so i would recommend for futhere published this video to me. Thanks for great video, and such a great video
Storage Jeyatharsini (2 месяца назад)
useful
Discordia Wonders (2 месяца назад)
Some of the best conversations I’ve ever had were complete gibberish with my friends, but we listened to each other, and we cared what the other one had to say. There’s no better feeling than knowing the person you’re talking to doesn’t want to just respond to what your saying, but actually wants to have a real conversation, even when it’s nonsense.
Roger Hinman (2 месяца назад)
Look at all the bloggers who disliked this video.
Bruceann Yellowega (2 месяца назад)
#6 I can hardly say anything to a friend who doesn’t come back with how she, feels or her experiences about what I just said. How can I get her to stop that. I hardly ever get to fully express myself, the topic always goes back to her and I end up asking her questions about her experience just to keep the conversation going. I seem to be her only friend, she has no family and lives up in the mountains. I try to keep this in mind when she does this, but I also think if she became aware of it she would be mindful and stop this habit. 😊
Radical Edward (2 месяца назад)
10 ways to have a better conversation by the most boring person who ever lived
Carolina Estelles (2 месяца назад)
So perfect, if our society listen and practice this,we would live in a better world.
Tamaraza (2 месяца назад)
I'm a good listener!! But I'm bad at talking and keeping the conversation going 🙁
Dan O (2 месяца назад)
How did that get 1.3k👎
Lisanne D (2 месяца назад)
So great that I actually watched it again and took notes
cliff chaffin (2 месяца назад)
Really Good Talk.. Look up the Great Alan Watts if really interested in the Art of Listening. He is my Favorite 😎
Joey Alshaheen (2 месяца назад)
How do you keep the conversation going if you don't talk about a similar subject? like what'd you respond to someone talking about their dead father?
Caleb Rodriguez (2 месяца назад)
Girl, ur amazing.
Zohra Ahmed (2 месяца назад)
I appriciate your presentation a lot. But it's hard to put it in practice when I'm stuck 24 7 with the same group of people between my job and home. Every one becomes so predictable. I know exactly how they are going to react about every possible subject. And yes they wanna tell me about ALL their big fat problems but they won't listen to mine. I know when they're lying .. I know when they are deceitful ... So I started to shut myself from everyone. I read more, I use the Internet more and am happy about it
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The Amalekite (2 месяца назад)
The problem is liberals have allowed Jews to create a propaganda machine that is contrary to all humanity. Of course none of you will allow yourself to think that because you are afraid of the truth.
Cliff DaRiff (2 месяца назад)
All I can say this is silly. None of this is necessary. Adults sitting around watching someone tell them how and what to do, say, and act during a conversation. Come on people, use your imagination! You don't need this over educated person, rather full of herself telling you how to converse via a formula.. Live and learn. Teach yourself. Just have something interesting to say. Please.
NeverNedDead (2 месяца назад)
she speaks out of my mind so perfectly
Auramyna (2 месяца назад)
I absolutely love that there are multiple TL;DR summaries in the comments. I was hoping for this. However it leads me to wonder if this attention span issue is part of the problem.
Noodles349 (2 месяца назад)
zoom
Ollie Law (2 месяца назад)
Number 11: Don't look at someone/an object/a scene over the speaker while they are talking/looking directly at you. You don't have to maintain direct eye-contact, but there is nothing ruder than tuning out for a moment while the other is talking, and looking directly at you.
ProtonCannon (2 месяца назад)
8:46 "What people care about is you, they care about what you are like." This is EXCATLY the reason why I stopped talking to people and avoid it like the plague.
Janne Niemelä (2 месяца назад)
1. close this video and speak
LovezTunez (2 месяца назад)
Be sure to check out her talk at Savannah Book Fest this year on c-span.org BookTV. She cites the academic studies supporting her theses, and adds more info re: the length of people’s attention spans when listening.
ADRIANO GOMES (2 месяца назад)
Amazing this canal 😎😎😎
Nhung Nguyễn (2 месяца назад)
I'm an introvert. I don't like talking to others even meet them.May be I'm so insane but i can't control myself. I usually stay at home, surf web to watch shows, films, learn chinese. i really feel to hate myself because of the lack of confidence and bravery. How should I change my timidity? ...... I think practicing writing comment is the useful way to improve english! The above sentences are true about myself.
Petros Vouloukos (2 месяца назад)
Great Suggestions! Thanks!
black blue (2 месяца назад)
Amazing advice. I'm prepared to be amazed now.
Stephen Powzinger (2 месяца назад)
Don't pontificate is right! I hate being lectured. Bill Nye - same advice as Dale Carnegie. - Some conversations wander all over the place to the point that by the time you think of something to say they've changed the subject. Some people are bad about repeating themselves, saying everything twice. Many group conversations are wrecked because someone can't stop talking.
bikash kumar maharana (2 месяца назад)
Ha ha ha
Julia B (3 месяца назад)
Simply Amazing!
Sharath Martin (3 месяца назад)
One of the better TED talks .. easily.
Armando Antonio Valdez Renteria (3 месяца назад)
Forget The Details .... What? No Listen ... Yes!

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